Puzzle that is my Life

Photo by Magda Ehlers on Pexels.com My life feels too much like a puzzle with 1,000 pieces. Been spending years trying to put it together so it can look exactly like the pretty picture on the box. A picture that I didn’t even fully create. A picture that has been changing over the years into…

I Don’t Know

So, I have been thinking about blogging on and off for a couple of months. The main reason I stopped blogging was because life got really busy as I was completing my last year of grad school. It was originally supposed to be a short break. Then the pandemic happened, and I found myself being…

Do you Know What you are Searching for?

So many people are in a search for a concept that they don’t even fully understand. How are you searching for something that you don’t even know? That you won’t even be able to recognize when it presents itself to you? This is how we get caught up in the wrong situations with the wrong…

The Thing about Personal Growth/Change

Recently, the idea of growth and changing has become pretty popular, which is great to a certain extent. I say to a certain extent because I am noticing that some people are changing not for themselves but for others. Or some people feel pressured to go about their personal growth journey the same exact way…

The Support I Have Received

Throughout my life, I have meet people who do not truly support me. They pretend to support me to stroke their ego, hold it over me, and/or to try to get something more out of it, like money. I was recently watching an interview with Karen Civil and she said, “They want you to be…

Returning Home

As some of you may know I am a graduate student currently living on my university’s campus while I study clinical psychology in Chicago. I am originally from New York. During winter break the dorm was closed which means I went back to New York for a few weeks. This was my first time being…

I want to Be a Diamond

When I was in middle school, my science and math teacher asked me, “Do you like diamonds?” I said, “Yes.” “Would you rather be a diamond or a regular rock? And why?” Wondering where this was going, I replied, “Diamond because it is considered the best and toughest stone.” He asked, “How is a diamond…

Comparing Yourself to Others Could Blind Your Judgement

Comparing myself to others really prevented my confidence from developing when I was a child and teenager. If I was not doing what other people was doing, I used to think less of myself. I would use other people lives as expectations for what I should accomplish. For example, I always wanted to be intelligent,…

I was Already the Person Who I Dreamed of Becoming

If someone would have told me while I was in high school that I would be the person I am today, I would have told them they got the wrong Nia. Everything I wanted to be when I younger I have always been. The traits and talents I desperately wished for, I always had since…