A Quick Reminder

I think it’s important to love. Not just other people but also love yourself, things, hobbies, places, food, sounds, etc. it’s important to have love in different forms and different sources of joy. To fall in love with different aspects of life. And to love fully, give it your all. It may be hard and…

Sometimes the “Perfect” Answer isn’t Needed

A few nights ago, I was feeling sad and crying. I decided to call my mom and talk to her. At first, I was just going to talk to her as a distraction but hearing her voice caused me to cry more and tell her how I was feeling. After I told her, she expressed…

So I’m Back in Therapy

As I mentioned in this post Vulnerability , I wanted to work on becoming more comfortable with vulnerability. Dr. Brene Brown’s TED Talk showed me that I still had a good amount of work to do. Recently, I started going to see a therapist again. Since this was one of the main ways that helped…

Black Community in the Mental Health Field (My Experience)

Even though more people of color have been entering the clinical psychology/counseling field it is still predominantly white. In all of my classes I am one of few people of color. Sometimes it’s rough being the only black person or one of few, its kind of feels like I do not belong in the field…

The Support I Have Received

Throughout my life, I have meet people who do not truly support me. They pretend to support me to stroke their ego, hold it over me, and/or to try to get something more out of it, like money. I was recently watching an interview with Karen Civil and she said, “They want you to be…

Sisterhood Among Black Women

In an online group discussion, I was having with other black women, one of them asked a series of questions. They were: “Do you believe in sisterhood among black women? How do you define sisterhood? How has your experience been with it? How did you find it?” Some of the women said yes and shared…

Unhealthy vs Healthy Coping Mechanisms

At the end of a previous post Mentally Preparing for the New Year, I emphasized using healthy coping mechanisms as way to be mentally prepared. I decided to write a separate post about unhealthy and healthy coping mechanisms to talk more about them. Unhealthy coping mechanisms are basically destructive to you in one or more ways/areas…

Offer Support Instead of Jumping to Conclusions

There are times that I see people in harmful situations that limits their growth. It makes me want to pick them up and move them to a more positive environment, as if their pieces on a board game, so that they can fully thrive. But life isn't that simple. I cannot just move people away…