A few nights ago, I was feeling sad and crying. I decided to call my mom and talk to her. At first, I was just going to talk to her as a distraction but hearing her voice caused me to cry more and tell her how I was feeling. After I told her, she expressed concern and was honest. She said didn’t know what to say. Then I thought to myself it’s fine, I wasn’t expecting much. I just wanted to talk which helped me to feel a little better. Knowing my sense of humor and the fact that I like to laugh, my mom told me a joke based on one of our insiders. I started bursting out laughing. We talked about the insider and made other jokes. Before I knew it, we were on the phone for an hour talking and laughing. After the phone call I felt much better.
This moment reiterated the fact that I need to reach out to people whenever I’m sad, upset, etc. instead of always isolating myself. It also showed that just talking can sometimes help. I appreciate my mom’s honesty and for not pretending she had a magic answer. In addition, I like the fact she drew from what she knows about me and the strength of our relationship dynamic to make me laugh.
Time to Focus on You:
Reach out to people who you trust when you experience moments of sadness, anger, etc. Also, when people are venting to you, they don’t always want a miracle answer. It’s okay to be honest and admit that you don’t know what to say. You can still provide support and empathy just by being present and being who you are. You can draw on other aspects depending on the context of the relationship, such as giving a hug (with the person permission), just listening to them vent, sitting in silence with them for a while, practicing deep breathing together, offering to do a favor, and/or asking the person how you could help.
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I agree. It’s been an awful few days here and I didn’t talk to anyone about it aside from a few messages. Then I talked to my grandma a while and felt like I was grounded again, no longer swimming in my isolated mind.
She didn’t even say “the right things”, but just listening and encouraging helped tremendously.
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I’m glad to hear that your grandma helped you to feel better and grounded😊😊 being grounded is so important! Thank you for reading! 🙂
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So true! Sometimes just having a friendly ear to listen to you vent can make the world of difference. It’s even better when they check in a few days later to see how your going. 😊
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Yes! Check ins really makes a difference and show that they are still here for you if needed. Thank you for reading! 😁
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This is such valuable advice! Well worth keeping in mind ❤ Thanks for expressing it so well.
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Thank you for reading! 😃
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No one was created to be alone, bottling up emotions isn’t the best thing to do and I am glad you were able to find comfort by speaking to your mum. Keeping smiling darling ❤️❤️
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Thank you!! 😄and thank you for reading! I hope as is well with you 💜
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I completely agree, socially interactive people are often light-hearted. Expression and communication with like minded people is a medicine in itself. Lovely write up Nia.
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So true! Thank you for reading! 😄
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I wish it was so easy to talk to someone like you said. Being used to handle the sadness and anger all alone makes it a lil difficult to open up. But I will take up on your advice. Thank you
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Thank you for reading! 😊 it feel you comfortable to
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I agree! We feel as if we just hold it together ourselves. I recently shared this on my blog the other day. It’s ok to not be so strong! This is excellent advice. I appreciate this!
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Thank you for reading! 😀
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It’s so true, said simply and deep
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Thank you for reading!
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