“Go after what you want!”
“But I don’t know what I want.”
“Well figure it out, then go for it!”
Sometimes you may not know exactly what you want and have no idea on where to even begin to search for an answer. No one can really give you a direct answer because they are not you and they may not even know you well enough to know which direction to point you toward. Chances are you are going to have to go out to experience the world and find out what you don’t want/like. It is going to be an on-going trial and error process. You have to test out things and see what is for you and what is not for you. It may feel like you are throwing yourself into situations to see what happens and how you feel and respond. Obviously, do this with some type of caution and if possible some prior background research.
Through trying out things and finding out how you feel about them can help guide you in a direction. Even if you don’t like them, it will still be helpful because it will tell what to avoid and what does not work for you. Knowing what you do not like can help you to begin to figure out what you want/like. When you find out that you do not like something, chances are you will steer clear of it. Steering clear of what you do not want can lead you to going in a different direction and gravitating to what is for you/what you like and want. Sometimes the things you like are the direct of opposite of the things that you do not like and that aren’t meant for you.
This process is how I discovered what I want out of life, myself, friendships, my future career field, living location, a relationship, etc. I literally, and sometimes impulsively, threw myself into situations to see what was going to happen and whether I like or dislike the experience. Some experiences were terrible, and I now know what to stay far away from. While others were great. They lead to a deeper understanding and helped me to gravitate toward similar experiences/situations. I know what I like/want through finding out what is not for me.
This is still an on-going process since as a person I am constantly evolving and changing. I know it is easier said than done but take baby steps. Do not overwhelm yourself by trying out too many things at once. There is no set of rules, that I am aware of or would even follow, for going out to experience the world besides literally going out. You can do it on your own terms and how you want it, as long as it is healthy and not dangerous.
Time to Focus on You:
There is a possibility that you are already unconsciously engaging in this process to some degree. Take some time and think about how you can do this on conscious level.
How have your likes and/or dislikes helped to guide you in your life?