Finding Out What You Like and Want

“Go after what you want!”

“But I don’t know what I want.”

“Well figure it out, then go for it!”


Sometimes you may not know exactly what you want and have no idea on where to even begin to search for an answer. No one can really give you a direct answer because they are not you and they may not even know you well enough to know which direction to point you toward. Chances are you are going to have to go out to experience the world and find out what you don’t want/like. It is going to be an on-going trial and error process. You have to test out things and see what is for you and what is not for you. It may feel like you are throwing yourself into situations to see what happens and how you feel and respond. Obviously, do this with some type of caution and if possible some prior background research.

Through trying out things and finding out how you feel about them can help guide you in a direction. Even if you don’t like them, it will still be helpful because it will tell what to avoid and what does not work for you. Knowing what you do not like can help you to begin to figure out what you want/like. When you find out that you do not like something, chances are you will steer clear of it. Steering clear of what you do not want can lead you to going in a different direction and gravitating to what is for you/what you like and want. Sometimes the things you like are the direct of opposite of the things that you do not like and that aren’t meant for you.

This process is how I discovered what I want out of life, myself, friendships, my future career field, living location, a relationship, etc. I literally, and sometimes impulsively, threw myself into situations to see what was going to happen and whether I like or dislike the experience. Some experiences were terrible, and I now know what to stay far away from. While others were great. They lead to a deeper understanding and helped me to gravitate toward similar experiences/situations. I know what I like/want through finding out what is not for me.

This is still an on-going process since as a person I am constantly evolving and changing. I know it is easier said than done but take baby steps. Do not overwhelm yourself by trying out too many things at once. There is no set of rules, that I am aware of or would even follow, for going out to experience the world besides literally going out. You can do it on your own terms and how you want it, as long as it is healthy and not dangerous.

Time to Focus on You:

There is a possibility that you are already unconsciously engaging in this process to some degree. Take some time and think about how you can do this on conscious level.

How have your likes and/or dislikes helped to guide you in your life?

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18 thoughts on “Finding Out What You Like and Want”

  1. i needed to read this so so much. i’m just in the beginning stages of finding my passions, likes and dislikes, my people, and what makes me feel whole, and it is SUCH AN EXHAUSTING AND DAUNTING TASK SOMETIMES😔. but thank you for this piece of hope, these words of motivation, that there really is an end in sight, a life of fullness and wholeness worth searching and fighting for. 💙

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    1. I originally posted this as a reply to you but my phone made it a general comment, I guess it was a glitch.
      Aww, Thank you 😢 I’m glad it helped. It is daunting at times and kind of feel like you are under some type of pressure cause of society. Try to be as patient with yourself as you can and keep up with your self-care 💜😊.

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  2. Aww, Thank you 😢 I’m glad it helped. It is daunting at times and kind of feel like you are under some type of pressure cause of society. Try to be as patient with yourself as you can and keep up with your self-care 💜😊


  3. I really love this post!!! To be honest, sometimes I’m scared of trying out things, just because I don’t know if I’ll get a positive or negative result. Thanks for pointing out that I can’t just sit and do nothing…Now, I’m going to give some things a try. Great post, Nia!

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    1. Thank you!! 🤗 it’s fine and common to be scared, especially since we cannot predict outcomes. Depending on things you want to try, maybe some sort of preparation could help ease some of your fears.


  4. For a while, I didn’t know what I wanted to do either. I knew what general field I liked, but in terms of a specific job, I wasn’t sure, and honestly, I still am not. What I do know is I love media. I love TV and I love movies and I love how media brings people together, and I love how I get so much enjoyment from consuming media, so I kind of realized that I want to be a part in bringing people similar joy. I want to be a part of a company or doing something that people enjoy consuming or using. I’m in my last year of school so only time will tell if I can actually get a job doing that, but working towards it has been a lot easier since I realized that.

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  5. Yup. I totally agree with you. I too, got this realisation only recently and slowly began experimenting with myself. As it turns out, it brought in a hell of a positive result. Although, as you rightly said, one should learn where to stop. Overdoing it can be more disastrous than your boring, stable self

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  6. […] Over the years, I started to develop my voice. When I was younger, I did not have much of a voice for myself.  The way I developed my voice is somewhat of a blur because I was not always intentionally trying to develop my voice and this process is an on-going process. Anyway, I remember learning about myself in depth and spending time with myself was a major key for finding my voice. Writing, reflecting, having discussions with myself, and talking with close people helped to me to learn about myself. I got my point of view of myself and the perspectives of other people who knew me well enough. Recognizing my strengths, interests, likes, dislikes, and areas for improvement was beneficial to develop a sense of self. Going to where my intuition guides me and Finding my passion aided in finding my voice. I was surprised at how much my mind and body told me when I actually sat down and listened to them. You can read more about how I went about learning about myself in this post: Finding Out What You Like and Want […]


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