Alone time is a necessity for me. Just like oxygen and water, I need my alone time to function properly. On a regular basis, I need time by myself to recharge and get my energy right. Socializing with people excessively, whether in person or on the internet, is draining to me. For the most part, I like hanging out with people and talking about interesting topics but after being around people for too long I start to get irritated, tired, and cranky. Even my friends and mom can tell when I ready to go lock myself in my room just by the look on my face. They are understanding and give me time to myself.
Usually at the end of my long days, I speed walk back to my dorm room. When I get there, I turn off my phone and hide it. It’s like I get into this mood where I do not want to interact with anyone for a few hours and I don’t even want to see my phone. I just want to be all alone in silence to able to breathe and relax. Most of the time I think about whatever random topic that entered my mind as I enjoy the silence. Sometimes I mediate, take a nap, read, write, or other self-care related things. Sometimes I like to turn on music and sing loudly, usually off key, and dance around my room. “Just One of Those Days” by Monica is my anthem. I need to find more songs with the “I need to be alone, don’t take it personal” theme.
Sometimes people look at me weird when I tell them this and they question, “How can you be comfortable being alone? What do you even do? I need to be around people unless I will get bored.” I usually think to myself, “How do you have the energy to constantly be around people? Where is this infinite energy supply coming from? I need some of it.” I start to get tired from the very thought of constantly interacting with people.
Being alone is an enlightening experience for me. It gives me time to learn about myself and think about what I really want out of life without the distractions of society. I usually understand situations/ the big picture and figure out problems when I am left alone. There are times when my prolonged alone time turns into isolation. I’m still trying to find a balance being alone time and isolation because the line between the two is very thin.
Time to focus on you:
What do you like to do in your alone time? How often on a weekly basis do you have alone time?